The Ghost - Mental Self-Care
Coupled with The Crystal Ball, which supports living in the present and less worrying about the future, The Ghost reminds me to leave the past in the past. This doesn't mean forgetting everything, good memories can be important and helpful. But the steps below are useful to move on from those thoughts that creep in and remind you of times or things you've done which make you cringe, or just feel low.
Now while I've said above that positive memories can be a good thing, you can also end up dwelling in the past and wishing things were like they once were, which result in you missing all the great things that are happening in your present, life passes by without you noticing, and you're not working on how to make your days better now.
Please also remember that the below is to support moving on from some forms of negative memories, and might not be completely suitable for those who are working on intense past trauma. Having had minimal experience of traumatic events in the extreme, I can only speak for what has worked for me. If you are working through feelings from a serious traumatic event, take what works for you from the below, and if you need someone to talk to, feel free to visit the Spooky Self-Care Society Facebook group for a safe, private space.
What works for me is writing these memories and feelings down. Looking at them outside of your head can sometimes help you see them in a different way, realise they have no power, or how silly some of them are. Maybe try writing them as a letter to someone to tell them you're moving on, or even as advice to a friend as if they were experiencing these feelings, rather than yourself. We're all great at giving advice and support to others, but not so much to ourselves!
Acknowledge your feelings and telling them you're moving forward without them might seem weird, but give it a try and see how it feels. I've also been known to write them down and burn them (which might be my witchy side showing a little bit, but it works!)
It is possible to flip some of these feelings and memories around and state how happy you are that these things happened, because in many cases they have helped shape you into the person you are right now. You've experienced them, you've lived through them, you've grown from them and they've taught you important lessons about who you do and do not want to be, and how you want to live your life. Saying these things out loud and thanking them before letting them go is super powerful. Take a few deep breaths, focus on them, and visualise them floating away.
Give these a try and see what works for you, and the next time you find yourself looking back, guide yourself gently into the present moment. Use the steps from The Witch's Hat to ground yourself in the here and now.
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